Smut Help [18+]

This is the discussion for those of us who get stuck while writing smut or just plain wonder how to go about it. It is 18+ (for obvious reasons).

Ask or talk about anything you want concerning the grand art of smutwriting!

Personally I find smut to be the most difficult thing I write. I ALWAYS get stuck for longer or shorter periods of time while working on a sex-scene.

What I find hardest is making every scene new and fresh. The "mechanics" of sex is pretty much the same every time and finding new and exciting ways to describe it fries my brain every time.

Sure, there are endless possibilities in where, when and with who/what, but if you're doing three romantic "regular" sex scenes soon after one another you're almost bound to wonder if you described it this way before. ("Did I already use 'licked a hot trail' in this story or was that the other one?" "Will people notice if I use it in two stories?" "Did I already use it in two stories and might end up using it in the third too?")

Least that's how I do it. Neurotic for the win.
Anyone else share the fear of the repetitive in smut? Anyone know how to get around it?

I just wrote two smutty stories now I want to edit the wet spots so they dont sound so close. I have a habit of using almost the same line in every sex scene. "..the sound of their bodies slapping wetly resonated throughout...." <;< OK I see it now how the **** do I stop doing it...*deleates* line now how to describe their sex "sounds" w/o words just the "noise" of sex...<---I promise not to use too many of them, the entire post made me chuckle..X>

Thanks for the option..Ferus.. (no I'm not trying to get free smut, *takes notes staring at screen)

Edit:
I re-read your post, (sorry was on auto pilot) The best way I get around "sounding" the same (besides my problem above) The contact is not my problem I seem to have endless adaptations for the physical / emotional part.

Actually not endless I know what you mean, what I did in the back to back smut fictions is one was more "physical" the other more "emotional" so my focus during sex was on either the "physical aspects" for one story or the "emotional aspects" for another.

For "licked hot trail" depending on the "relationship" I'm writing about, O__o it does matter imo.
Emotional sex the above would be: "...he sampled the delicate skin beneath him, soft smile curling his full lips thinking this man is delicious...." (lame weak but something along those lines..)

Physical sex above would be: "...tongue darted out eagerly painting a shimmering line down a well sculpted chest; length; dick; penis; thigh ^^.." get it?

Thats my 2 cents..sorry if I confuse more..

*nodsnodsnods* Agreed!

I find that I am in the middle of the smut, and totally getting into it. Then I start second guessing myself. Is there another way of saying pebbling nipples? Is prick too strong a word to use for male anatomy? Oh holy shite, is he really going to do THAT???

Repetition is something I worry about constantly as well. I don't want to write a cookie cutter sex scene.

I am equally neurotic!

@Willow you inspire me so I try to find "unique" names for male anatomy, x> Like, recently I used, "seekers secret* for a persons bottom...(we know who) and regular words for penis or cock like *his legacy* . *chuckes*...Yes I agree in romance cock, dick can be too harsh..now with my fantasy thing I don't see how even **** <---read between the stars, will fit at all.

Cris: You made me remember a very useful thread here at Aarin. The erotic thesaurus
There are lots of great words there, both vulgar and non-vulgar. I'm definitely going to be going through it to find something to help ward off repetition.

I sometimes like to use the "nicer" words, like arousal, erection and member. But sometimes "He got f*cked hard and long by his thick, hot cock" just fit the guys better.

Willow: The "Oh holy shite, is he really going to do THAT???" line cracked me up! I've SO been there! You should have seen me when I wrote Birthday Cake; looking at Seph and saying "You're gonna do WHAT with the pastry bag?!?!"
Or the more recent question to Squall during Oil and Leather "You're gonna put that WHERE?!?"

Yeah, I do love "misuse" of things in smut. Makes writing the scene easier.

Right now I'm fairly hopelessly stuck on fluffy smut. I can't seem to find the words to make it romantic enough, while still keeping it hot. Though your suggestions were helpful Cris. Thank you.

you should add some smut to that! I did, Lol! Why did you need to remind me of birthday cake X> so deliciously smutty...or tastefully sexy..

I never thought of use "WHAT" (all caps in that manner) good idea..Thanks for sharing..

I am in need of some serious help here. I am trying to write sweet, fluffy lovemaking and I am getting exactly nowhere.

I do okay with violent sex and desperate sex, but can't seem to find a way to make it sweet.

I have two guys who just found out that the crush they have on the other is actually mutual. They started kissing and I am trying to take it from there. I want it to be a kind of slow exploration that just kind of leads to intercourse.
I have a rough plan for where I want to take it, but all the sweet little details are completely eluding me. I even had to have someone tell me that intertwining fingers can be romantic. That's how stuck I am on this.

So can someone please help me with some suggestions for romantic/sweet little things that might help me fluff it up a bit? Anything will be helpful at this point.
(I am writing this one-shot for someone and I really feel really guilty for keeping her waiting.)

Thank you in advance for any help I might get.

Pick the more emotional of the two and write from his perspective often. Even crude or bland actions can sound sappy and "touching" if you dip into the sappy character's head for a second to get *his* take on it. Have lots of extraneous petting, brushing hair off someone's face while looking into their eyes, stroke arms, legs, backs - parts that aren't inherently sexual but still personal. Gentle kisses to the inside of a wrist or a temple or the neck - anywhere you can feel a strong pulse (like a "celebrate life" gesture). If it's a rushed encounter, just breaking the clumsy foreplay for a soft moment of unnecessary affection (kissing hair) can be really striking amid all the rabid lust. Avoid curse words and "porno" dialogue until toward the end (if at all), and have them say each other's names or make weak attempts at humor. Hearing your crush say your name in *that tone of voice* is gushworthy, and watching him get all awkward and embarrassed is so cute - what the character feels is what we readers feel. If it's sweet and memorable for him, it will be for us.

Oh, and emphasize the hugging. Holding close - before during after. If they just found out the crush is mutual they'll probably want to hug a lot. Just holding close and being *able* to hold close. Hiding a face in a shoulder and just breathing him in while holding him close - even in hardcore pron, taking a moment off to just hold can be touching.

A friend of mine resently helped me with sending me a thesaurus, it had the most important words for writing mut and stuff... I just skipped through it and it gave me some nice new idea's. contact me and I will send you the list. (of if someone has a fictionpress account, contact me at miladydraigen and I will be able to send it to you too.)

Arigatomina: Thank you so much for the help! You may have saved my story!

Draigen: Thank you for the tip! I've got thesaurus.com bookmarked in my browser. (I use it all the time)